Friday, December 11, 2015
Citation: Mongeau, P. A., Jacobsen, J., & Donnerstein, C. (2007). Defining dates and first date goals: Generalizing from undergraduates to single adults. Communication Research, 34, 526–547.
Summary: This research journal discusses the different goals men and women in college have with regard to dating or hooking up. The article claims (through research) that men have sexual end goals where as women have more meaningful end goal in mind. Dating has progressed over time. It is no longer just a search for a life long partner but now also a fun short term relationship that does not necessarily need to lead to anything more than a good time.
Authors: P. A. Mongeau: Arizona State professor specializing in Communications. He is currently theAssociate Director for The Hugh Downs and as President-Elect of the Western States Communication Association. His primary research interests lie in interpersonal communication and persuasion/social influence.
C. Donnerstein: Donnerstein has a PhD in Communications currently working in the communications department at University of Arizona. She has written many papers on human interactions including between men and women as well as how computers and technology affect human interaction.
Quotes:Specifically, men tend to report sexually oriented goals to a greater extent than do women. Women tend to report relationship-oriented first date goals (particularly friendship) to a greater extent than do men.
My argument: Hook up culture is prevalent in the college community due to the rise in technology as well as being over worked. Because of these factors, although it is an unfair construct, it is unstoppable.
The counter argument: Hook up culture is fair and grants additional power to women in relationships. NPR discusses how this culture not only aids equality between men and women because both genders are equally able to pursue the opposite sex but also discusses how these relationships formed via social media can lead to meaningful relationships and eventually marriage.
I will dispute this in my paper with interviews and surveys of students at Rutgers university who discuss that hook up culture is only for short term fulfillment and not for pursuit of long term relationships. Additionally, I will use scholarly sources like Paul, E. L., & Hayes, K. A. (2002). "The casualties of ‘casual’ sex: A qualitative exploration of the phenomenology of college students’ hookups" to show that women are less inclined to enjoying relationships of this nature and commonly feel regret after performing such acts.
In an interview with a Rutgers University student, she discusses how hook up culture has affected her college experience. In the interview, which was not easy for her to go on with due to the emotional trauma she experienced, she went on to discuss how she was "romantically taken advantage of" due to the constructs of hook up culture. The woman who I interviewed (who wishes to remain nameless) tells a story of how she met a guy at a party, hooked up with him and continued their relationship for around a month and a half. She goes on to discuss that although he always seemed interested in the possibility of dating, in fact, he was not interested at all. The only thing he was interested in was hooking up. Whenever she would broach the topic of dating, he would shrug it off and say there was no need to have that conversation yet. This relationship went on until one day this woman saw the man she presumed was was romantically invested in her doing the exact same thing with another woman. She claimed to be romantically taken advantage of because had she known his intentions, she would not have continued their relationship.
This is one instance at Rutgers University where a woman was taken advantage of because of the nature of hook up culture. It allows men and women to act the same way however, it appears that it is usually the case that men are the ones with multiple women thus rendering it unfair.
Emma is a student at Columbia University who claims to have been raped by another student at school. She was engaged with the student sexually in the past however it appears that hook up culture was to blame. This case illustrates the dangers of hook up culture on campus and helps to prove my argument that women on campus are not gaining as much as they are losing with regard to hook up culture. Emma, in an attempt to shed light on the matter, brings her mattress around campus wherever she goes because it is symbolic of bringing what is closed, private and secret out into the public eye.
Citation: Sales, Nancy Jo (August 2015). Tinder and the Dawn of the Dating Apocalypse. Vanity Fair.